Spending Time

A few weeks ago I had the chance to spend time with just my wife and I.  We had a blast just being with one another and not worrying about being or doing anything.  As we were driving home on that Sunday I thought to myself, “Did I spend all the time I had with her wisely”?  Yes and No.    Here are a few things that I am starting to do that will help me not only in my marriage but in many areas. 

Become a better question asker – If you are like me I am not great at this so I need to practice. “Practices… you talking about practices”?  Yes, I am starting small and learning from my wife about how to ask questions that matter.  I have an Iphone so I am starting to put great questions into my phone.  I want what I talk about sometimes to matter. So the questions in my phone are just a starting point.  The end goal is for it to not be about me and naturally be about others.  Again, I think I am ok at this but I want to be BETTER.

Share – With my wife I don’t do a good job sharing with her with what is going on in my life and walk with Christ.  It sounds silly but she loves to be apart of my life and with her being in the know of how I feel or how crazy life is she knows how to be there for me.  The same is true for me to be there for her.  We need to do this with those who are important in our life.  Keeping each other up to date is so important but I don’t think we take the time to do it.

Encourage – This one for me is really hard.  I just assume that she knows how awesome/amazing she is.  She is confident in who God made her but as her husband I should let her know how I feel…not in a shallow way but intentionally.  I think we take for granted that God has placed remarkable people in your life that need to hear how you see Christ in them.  If they are not a believer they still need to hear encouragement as well.